Duke of Shomolu writes
I have decided to stay very clear of this saga, especially as we do not really have enough information about what is exactly going on.
But in some comments that I have seen, the words “grooming” and “manipulation” have been used interchangeably when referring to Innocent’s behavior towards Annie.
This has triggered me to drop this essay to address it in general terms and not only in this case.
Women are always quick to jump in defense of their sex and, in the process, get blinded by the lasciviousness they bring to the table.
I have heard them say, “Oh, Tuface groomed her from 15; he also manipulated her into staying and marrying him,” like she was a Dundee and a dummy without sense.
When things get to a head like this, women will jump in their droves and start postulating a lot of crap in defense of their own.
The man would be demonized and made to look like the evil one, while the woman would be totally blameless.
Relationships today are filled with women who are blameless, innocent, and were just headed to slaughter slabs by evil men without any resistance.
So, what is grooming? They asked for the expensive clothes, the cars, the school fees for their siblings, the expensive apartments, and then they declare on the gram, “Oh, I can’t be with a broke man,” flaunting all the ill-gotten material things.
Then, when it breaks down, the chorus line will shout, “Oh, he was grooming her, and he used the gifts to manipulate her to get access to her.”
In all of this grooming and manipulation, the mumu woman does not have the sense to realize that the car she is using to take selfies or the trip to Dubai is all manipulative.
She will enjoy those things, keep her legs open to continue getting those things, and when it is over, she will shout manipulation.
If anybody is being manipulated or groomed these days, it’s the men.
Because most of these women use many men at the same time for these benefits and seemingly enjoy it to the point of calling the men mugu.
In this case, how could a 20-year-old Tuface groom a younger Annie when both of them had nothing and were both wet behind the ears?
When he married her, the chorus lines shouted to high heavens how she had won the battle of the side chicks.
They proclaimed her a strong woman who knew what she wanted and stood by it. She went around flaunting and parading herself as the authentic Mrs. Idibia and would have slapped anybody who mentioned grooming or manipulation near her borrowed wigs.
My brothers, if anybody was being groomed or manipulated here, it was Tuface, who was made to believe that this was his wife by societal pressure, and when he realized that he had made a mistake, he screamed.
Like I have said, I will not take sides and do not even care what has happened to their marriage. My own is that nobody must demonize Tuface because he is a man and start using those words—grooming and manipulating—on him.
Women are their own worst enemies; they never listen. They only listen to their self-deceptive voices, and the older ones who have failed in relationships never let the younger ones rest from the noise of “men are devils” that they spew.
Some women have called me to say they are supporting Tuface, but I have shut them up by saying that I really don’t care. My own is that nobody groomed or manipulated Annie, and if anybody was being taken advantage of, it was Tuface.
All these women take advantage of his romantic nature and get pregnant for him, knowing that he cannot, by nature, turn away from his children or responsibilities.
Abi, didn’t we see the video of him running at night to go and see his children in America, with Annie screaming blue murder?
So, because he married Annie, he cannot have a relationship with his other children?
He must take permission to go and see them?
We should all be moved by conviction and love because we want to love—not love because of pressure.
We must all be bold and face our true convictions, no matter where our love is. Seek it, be happy, and not stay in a pretentious marriage or relationship for fear of what people will say or because you are Tuface.
I am saying it again—women are their own worst enemies, because I am sure Annie, sitting wherever she is now, is surrounded by a circle of female influence telling her that she is the victim.
The one who stabbed me with a knife—they told her it was my fault because I cheated. The fact that she could have killed me wasn’t highlighted to her.
I heard the wicked female circle say, “If you catch him again, do it.”
You see, some have done it, and they know where it got them.
Women are their own worst enemies, I tell you. And until they begin to borrow themselves some realistic sense and stop believing that the pull of their vaginas is what makes the world go around, they will continue to live in self-delusion and end up bitter and sad.
Come and beat me.
Rubbish!
Duke of Shomolu
